3 is the magic number for a reason. It’s the number of times Manila Luzon has competed (and has been robbed!) on Drag Race, it’s the number of lube varieties we have, and, it’s also the perfect number for playtime!
Although threesomes, twosomes, and solo-somes are great ways to explore pleasure, they can also be daunting when trying to figure out what goes where or how to even start.
But, have no fear, Pure for Men is here to keep you ready for anything! We’re serving up some tips that can help you slay in the sheets no matter if you’re flying solo or flying first class with a few passengers!
1. Get Ready to Stay Ready
Before you can stay ready, it’s important to stay safe! Make sure all parties (including yourself) are regularly tested, taking any preventative medications, and are using condoms.
Whether you’re bottoming, topping, or watching, it’s also good to maintain good hygiene and sex care practices! Shower beforehand with a Body Wash or Body Bar to loosen up your body, you can also use our Wipes in a jam. For long-term readiness, a Pure for Men Bidet or Stay Ready Fiber can do even more wonders for keeping things clean and clear for you and your partner(s)!
Although you may be more than ready, assume no one else will be. Especially for threesomes, be sure to have a full stock of condoms, toys, and of course, LUBE! Having a variety of anal lube, like our Water-Based, Silicone-Based, and Coconut-Based ones, can tend to everyone’s preferences while making things a bit more comfortable and preventing injuries!
2. You Aren’t Ready Without Communication
Let’s face it: Whether it’s between two or three people, sex is awkward!
It can feel downright uncomfortable to assert boundaries or to bring up new kinks. But, having this formal discussion with your partner(s) before, during, and after playtime to go over consent, general rules, safe words, and a loose plan can go a long way in guaranteeing a good time!
For threesomes, make sure everyone really wants to participate and don’t pressure your partner into having one if they don’t want to! Threesomes can be fun, but they can also bring up intense feelings of jealousy or unveil deeper relationship aspects, so make sure everyone is on the same page!
3. Keep It Fun
The most important tip is to have fun!
Don’t ever feel ashamed of not lasting long enough or not wanting to try something! This is your time as much as it is their time. So, pace yourself, take breaks, and tap out when you need to!
Use foreplay to break the ice and to slowly build up to bigger sizes, especially for beginners! Stop if it ever gets painful or uncomfortable for anyone and remember to be mindful of the needs of all 2 or 3 or 4 of you!
The most important tip is to have fun.
Stay Ready and Stay Sexy
Sex shouldn’t ever be anxiety-inducing or complicated to prepare for, no matter the partner quantity.
Stay ready, stay safe, and stay sexy!
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